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The Value of Couples Therapy

My wife and I are trying to build a house.  We have a lot of know how and raw materials.  I have lots of hammers and saws, my wife nails and screws and fasteners.  We have everything we need. But the house I grew up in flooded in the basement when it rained and my wife’s was cold and dark every winter.  We know what we want to build, but we don’t have any blueprints. Our couples therapist, along with our spiritual practice, allow us to become the architects of a home in which we can flourish. Ilene helps us use our tools and resources to build something substantial and sustainable, with solid supports.  Otherwise my wife and I would be like some kind of Three Stooges act, with me clobbering myself in the hand with a hammer while she spins around trying to hoist too much lumber. We still gets splinters and we screw things up but Ilene helps us remember why we put on our hard hats and come into work every morning.

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